Getting all my Ducks in a Row: Ten Things For Ten Years of Marriage

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Ten Things For Ten Years of Marriage

Sunday I hit the last major milestone that I will for a while. Hubby and I celebrated our 10 wedding anniversary. We didn't go out dancing or to a romantic dinner...we basically shipped our kids off and just enjoyed the day in each others company. I read a book - he took a nap, to say that we're not the most exciting people on the planet would be a gross understatement.

The truth is after being together for almost 14 years - it really wasn't that big a deal to celebrate 10 years of marriage. I love him. He loves me. Sunday is our lazy day. We spent it being lazy together.

The last couple of years we have celebrated our anniversary at this beautiful bed and breakfast in St. Louis and we did have plans to go back there this year. See No. 2 for explanation as to why we chose to stay home.

Hopefully later in the year we can take a weekend and get away.

Ten Things for Ten Years of Marriage:

1. We are in this for the long haul. We started out that way in the very beginning, both coming from marriages that ended in divorce. But we are commited to each other and committed to making this work in spite of ourselves, our families and sometimes each other.

2. This man would move heaven and earth for me. He is currently in the process of making it possible for me not only to go to San Diego for Blogher, but also to have some much needed dental work. To say that I am giddy with excitement over the selflessness of him giving up not only our annual anniversary trip but also all our extra money for the next couple of months is at this point beyond words.

3. He tries. This may not seem like a big deal and not really even touching the iceberg of trouble that we have experienced in the last couple of years, but he tries. I can see through his actions, words and guestures that he is trying.

4. We are road trip kind of people. We love the thrill of the ride, listening to 90's music, signing along like fools and discovering little places along the way. I am certain that once our kids are grown and gone, we will still have exciting adventures.

5. We are never going to be that cute couple that likes all the same things and can always agree on everything. We will never have all the answers or know exactly what to do, be we have each other. We will lean on each other in the hard times and hold hands through the times that make our hearts sing.

6. We have esp. It's amazing how alike we think. Hubby will be talking about what he thinks about this or that and too many times I say - exactly what I was thinking.

7. This man loves our children. He will go to bat for them in their time of need. There is something so heart breakingly sweet about a Dad that takes the time to love his kids.

8. We have made it through the hardest part of our marriage. The crazy, babies being born every couple of years are now behind us. We are now in the growing the next generation years. It's not always easy but it's much easier than those first few years.

9. I can't always be right, and it's not worth it to always try. Sometimes it's better to just bite my tongue and concede to this simple fact.

10. I am looking forward to the next 10 years.